Please Explain borderline personality disorder?

I am going through a tough separation from an abusive boyfiend and I want to go back
Answer:
People with borderline personality disorder have overwhelming needs that they try to meet in relationships. A major defense mechanism used by these patients is "splitting" which means they fail to integrate positive and negative qualities in a person. They love and adore the positive things done by the other person but as soon as they receive any negative feedback or behavior, they immediately devalue the person and search for a new, positive relationship with someone else. They try to reattach as quickly as possible with another person. This results in unstable relationships. People with borderline personality disorder also have little tolerance for being alone - it's an intense fear of abandonment. Because of their inability to keep a steady relationship due to splitting and the need to constantly be with others, despair and self-mutiliation sets in. Self mutilation is a response to present or anticipated losses. These people really don't mean their actions to be lethal but they are impulsive and self-destructive. These behaviors are precipitated by threats of seperation or rejection. Chronic depression is also common along with anger. Patients display sarcasm, bitterness, or outbursts. Early childhood development plays a role in the development of borderline personality disorder. Kids who were abused, neglected, had hostility displayed to them or had parental losses are at the greatest risk.

In my personal opinion, seperation from an abusive boyfriend and wanting to go back is not a sign of borderline personality disorder. This behavior you are describing is common in many women who are being abused. Although the situation with your boyfriend was horrible and abusive, it was still a connection with another person. Please speak with a women's shelter in your area. They have many suggestions for seperating from abusive relationships that you may find helpful. Your safety is the most important. I hope this information helped.

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BPD is a serious mental illness characterized by a pervasive instability in mood
this instability often disrupts family and work life
BPD suffer from a disorder of emotions regulations
BPD is more common affecting 2% of adults and mostly young women
good luck

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